you don’t choose your attachment style! It’s a mix of natural temperament and how you learned to reach for protection, safety & love based on your unique lived experience & family/environmental patterns.

yes, people can change and grow from any insecure attachment into secure attachment - however that takes time, energy & money - different people have different access to that

AND people have the misinterpretation that secure attachment means you never have emotional behavior or that you’re perfectly emotionally calm & perfect - Naur

PsychologyNeha JhaDecember 27, 2023attachment theory